You CAN do it

If you want to.

Want to go on holidays? Save your money.

Don’t have money to save? Take on a part time job. Save the money from it.

Want to be debt free? Change your lifestyle. Live smaller. Plan. One birthday my goal was to pay off all my debt (other than mortgage of course!) All year I cut back. I made payments no matter what came up. By my next birthday? SUCCESS!! Frickin awesome feeling.

Cut back. Don’t eat out. Don’t take on more debt. Cut back, cut back, cut back. Shop at Value Village (not even kidding, I’ve scored good stuff there). Plan. I am SO far from being good with my money, but I know that if you want it, you are the only one stopping yourself from getting it.

When I was 27 I built a house. BY MY SELF. I had just started a new job. I was single. It was HARD. It was one of the only strong gut feelings I’ve ever had in my life and I couldn’t ignore it even though I felt like I couldn’t afford it.

I COULD afford it. I just had to make a whole lot of changes. I worked FT plus overtime when I could get it and took on a PT job in the evenings, for 3 years. I struggled to make mortgage payments the first 3 years. Sometimes that meant an impromptu garage sale to make a quick buck so I could make my payment and sometimes it meant just staying home. Reading a book or watching one of my 2 channels. Cutting back.

Was it worth it?

HELL YA!

There is always circumstances. For everyone. No one is immune. If you think you are an exception, you’re wrong. Sorry, but you are.

My point is if you put in the hours, you CAN make things happen. It won’t happen overnight, but nothing worthwhile ever does. For anyone.

Maybe it’s just that you REALLY don’t want it. Undecided? Flip a coin, once it’s in the air you’ll know what you’re hoping to see 😉

Tweet-Ups

Firstly I have to reiterate how much I hate the term “Tweet-Up”. ya, ya, I get it. It’s when twitter peeps meet up. I’m not saying it doesn’t make sense, I’m saying it sounds so lame I can’t even say it without blushing.

I can’t bring myself to attend a Tweet-Up. IT FREAKS THE LIVING SH#T OUT OF ME?!!! I have the best of intentions every time I hear about one. But consciously, and sometimes subconsciously it seems, something always comes up so I can’t make it. It seems SO awkward to me. Like I’m 4 years old again and just will run and hide in a closet or clam up so what’s the point anyway?

I feel like I’ll blow my cover. The cover of @BrendaSarg. How ridiculous.

I love twitter. I love the banter. I love the advice. I love the people. I love the debates. I love the laughs. What if in person it doesn’t live up to that? Maybe if we had a speak in 140 characters or less tweet-up? I’d totally be into that.

Seriously, who worries about shit like this? Tweet-Up Anxiety. My parents must be proud.

Impressive Use of Social Media – Facebook

I See Fit People

If you don’t follow them on facebook, you should. These people have facebook conquered. Truly impressive. I go to their facebook page every day. E V E R Y day. Whether it’s a post thanking Baby Jesus for coffee or one telling you to get your ass out there and run, there is always something to amuse me or make me think. Or motivate me.

Why are they a success at engaging over 8,000 people on their facebook page? They talk to YOU. DAILY. Every single day. They post motivation. recipes. struggles. encouragement. fears. and mostly, support. Wendy, Matt or Rachelle ALWAYS comment back if you post on their wall. ALWAYS. They answer questions, always keep the communication open. They draw you in, you feel a part of what they are doing. You want to see them succeed and you want to support them back. Amazing relationship they’ve built with their readers.

If you want to learn from the masters how to manage a business page, watch these guys. They got it. Click here, like them, and learn.

Thanks Matt, Wendy, and Rachelle for teaching me a thing or two, or 200 😉

Google +

Come on you guys. Can’t we all jump Facebook ship and sail over to Google +? Leave the drama mamas at facebook, the “I need a cow for my non-existant pasture for this incredibley annoying game I’m playing” people there and get to Google?

I’m optimistic. Google + is still new. I like that it is all information, less fluff. Don’t get me wrong, I’m queen of fluff, but I like having a forum that isn’t. Maybe it’s just the circles I’m in there…people post WAY different stuff there than on facebook. Stuff I can learn from. Totally different following there than on facebook. I like that.

Linked In? pfffft. Still not seeing the benefit of that one, but Google + has great potential. Get there. Find me. Let’s be plus-ers. or whatever.

ME ON GOOGLE+  Brenda Sargeant

Builds Character or Puts Hair on your Chest or Something

I worked at Willy’s Hamburgers out on Gasoline Alley for 2 years. I always felt somewhat demeaned by that. I was in my 20s and working in a fast food restaurant.

I busted my ass at that job. Seriously. It would be crazy busy there in the summer and you were literally ran off your feet for 8-10 hours a day. Ya it was a fast food joint, but I liked the “regulars” that came in for breakfast every morning, the really rammy miserable dude that treated me like crap until I stood up to him and he smiled like I FINALLY got it, and my co-workers… Except for that chick who used to make up totally off-the-wall bs stories about horses eating at the table and stuff. She was too odd, even for me.

I’m always super defensive when someone makes a rude remark about a fast food worker or disrespects them because you know what? My bet is that some of them bust their ass at their job 10 times more than you do at yours.

So be nice, your choice of work is no better than the next guy’s.

Listen. Acknowledge. Save the Crazytown

I used to work for Fluor during the Joffre 2000 Projects. There I met a man who taught me more than any person I’ve ever met. I don’t think he knows that.

The job was in Labour Relations. He was the manager and he hired me as his assistant. He was SMART. And not annoying smart (you know the type) but socially smart. Always friendly, always REALLY listened – stopped what he was doing and focussed on what you were saying, and always genuine in his responses. Always. But not a pushover. If you were an ass, he’d make you aware of it. But not in a passive aggressive way, in a direct concise way. No bullshit, no beating around the bush.

We’d have a job steward come in, sit for an hour to get to see him, only to put in a complaint that there was no lemon pie in the Camp Kitchen. OMG. My first EMOTIONAL response was always “Are you frickin kidding me? Get your ass out there and get to work and be grateful you get pie at all you lazy ass”… or something like that 😉

Not my boss, he would listen. He would understand that these men were away from their families for considerable lengths of time. They missed their kids, they missed being cared for by their spouses. He acknowledged their complaints. Which is all they really wanted. Someone to listen and acknowledge them. He never was quick to the emotional off-the-top response…he always took time to consider where they were coming from. Amazing talent. Needless to say, I’m crazy jealous of that talent and whenever I find myself going crazytown over something that REALLY isn’t that big of a deal, I try to remind myself of his awesomeness.

Stay calm. Breath. Listen. React. And if someone’s an ass, tell them straight up 🙂

Thank you Mark McCullough for the impact you’ve had on my world.

 

DO IT!

Working for yourself is the shit. WHY did no one tell me this before??? I LOVE my job. Creating a platform for local businesses to show their goods is a huge honour and each time I’m given it, I’m more excited about this path.

Yesterday I met with a potential Client and we were discussing our previous jobs and the lack of fulfillment that comes over time. We both jumped ship and made major changes to our worlds so we could follow our passion – for ourselves, and for our families.

I thought about it probably a year. My old job paid well, they were crazy flexible around my schedule, my boss was awesome, my co-workers were my friends, and I knew it inside and out. Easy peasy. BUT I felt like I was in a coma! No BS! It was I was in a fog while I was there, just not feeling it at all, stopped caring about going above and beyond and just plugged away. That is NOT me. I have to care, I have to work hard, I have to impress. I have to learn. I have to be challenged.

If you’ve had enough, are bored senseless and have a goal you want to pursue. DO IT! Yes, your life will be crazytown until things settle (they do eventually settle right?) but it will be SOOOOO worth it. And being scared again makes you feel alive 🙂

 

On-Line Connections: Weird, but Real

I got some sad news today. Trying to explain my connection to a woman I’d never actually met to my husband was futile.

In 2004 I started blogging on MSN Spaces. There was a group of us who got close. We read each others’ blogs every day, we commented, we followed one another through marriages, divorces, kids, career changes, and sadly…through death.

After MSN Spaces changed to MSN Live or something…we all kind of drifted away, it wasn’t the same. BUT, it wasn’t for long. We are all friends on facebook now and still keep up with each other’s lives. I know this is weird to some. It’s hard to explain, but I’ve been “connected” to these people for 8 years now. We’ve talked a lot today on facebook about the news we all got this morning.

Sad news is that one of our original bloggers, Lorene Angele passed away. I’m saddened for her  beautiful children that she was so very proud of. Love to you Lorene, whereever you are.

Rock on sista…

Cilantro & Chive

Tonight I’m going on a date!!! Don’t get too excited, it’s with my husband. bahahahah! kidding!

We are going to Cilantro & Chive. One of my first Clients. Here’s the thing with me, I tend to get attached to people. Not stalker attached, but attached. Since meeting Rieley and Kim I just liked them. We have mutual friends but we never knew one another until they hired me to build them a website. Starting a new business is crazy exciting, and when I went to check out their digs during their set-up, you could feel the anticipation. awesome. I love that feeling.

Since then, I went to their Grand Opening night with 2 of my good friends. I was nervous for them, I wanted to love their restaurant. YES!! I did!! YAY!! Food was wicked good, service was awesome, and it was just all in all a feeling of “I know these guys are gonna rock it”. Huge props to them for taking their successful catering company and turning it into a ballin’ restaurant. (ballin’ is Rieley’s word, I had to use it at least once)

Don’t be afraid to hire me. I won’t creepy attach to you..it will be a from afar admiration. promise 😉